How long until the 15 year olds take over this post with their garbage
If an individual asks you not to do something, this means they personally do not approve or feel comfortable with the thing you are doing. Just because one person in a subset doesn’t feel that what you’re doing is wrong doesn’t give you license to trample another’s feelings on what could be a very personal issue for them.
yeah, one queer person telling you that they dont mind the f-slur being used in a casual context does not mean that the word is any less of a pejorative that has always been and is still used for the sole purpose of hurting queer people; one member of a marginalized group giving you license to do something that other people in that group are uncomfortable with does not mean you are allowed to do it to every member of that group because one member of a group does not speak for the entire group, only for themselves and their experiences as a part of that group
similarly, members of a marginalized group who dont approve of more vocal, “radical” means of oppossing oppression (such as “bullying” cishets or viewing all men as a potential threat) do not speak for the entire marginalized group, and members who DO participate in those means of opposing oppression arent wrong or bad or “hurting the cause” because they choose to be vocal about marginalization and take an active stance against oppression instead of not really bothering about it because they dont feel the need to (which is ok, but doesnt mean that people who feel oppressed and invalidated are wrong)
you cannot take the views of one person, especially more lenient views like “i dont mind the f-slur” or “i think its silly to be afraid of men,” as a green light to do things that other people think are offensive
and i luv that top comment. by “how long before the 15 year olds take over this post with their garbage” do you mean, “how long before people who DO find these behaviours offensive start mentioning that just because one person says they dont mind it doesnt make it ok to do it all the time to everyone,” or “how long before people start saying that hey, some of this stuff is offensive actually and i dont think its right that that level of offensiveness should be invalidated by a comic on tumblr dot com that essentially amounts to ‘calm down losers, not everybody thinks x thing is all that bad’”? because lmao